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Here's a stub of what a post might look like:

Name: Thamiris
LJ: (Thamiris's Glossolalia) Note: Her lj is in memorial status so I think safe from purging, please correct if I'm wrong.

Archives and Other Sites:
- Odysseys and Ecstasy (Still up in 2017!)
- Fanlore Entry

When they passed (if known): April 4, 2007. She passed away from breast cancer.

How you connected with them: Back in 2002, even before I got my own account on LJ, I had an early fandom friend (names: azimuth, selyons and a bunch of other names, she ran the frodo_slash yahoo group) who told me about LJ and offered me an account. I didn't take her up on it then though I did a few months later. But I started reading LJ obsessively, completely clueless about what it was for and why I was so fascinated. [profile] thamiris was probably the first LJ user I ever started following.

Fandoms they were involved in and loved: So many! Bible slash! So good! So shocking! She loved Smallville so much. And Hercules!

Any memories you want to share: While Tham and I weren't personal friends, I loved that she was this BNF in fandom (back when maybe BNF wasn't such a loaded term) who was throwing out all these provocative ideas and having a ton of fun while she did it. She ran multifandom challenges that I participated in and was so gracious and welcoming, the epitome of what you want to see in a mod.

Links to and appreciation of favorite stories or art of theirs:
- In Principio. NC17. God/Lucifer. A revisioning of creation.

~Memories, recs and links welcome in comments, thank you~
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Just a list of things I've been thinking about including as a sort of template (not that this would need to be followed, more as a suggestion of possibilities).

- User Name
- Links to existing archives and journals where they had a presence and might still. So, could be LJs,, the AO3, fandom-specific archives like Many Paths to Tread or Stories of Arda, personal archives that might still be out there)
- When they passed (if known)
- How you connected with them
- Fandoms they were involved in and loved
- Any memories you want to share
- Links to and appreciation of favorite stories or art of theirs

ETA: I have put in a draft bio on the profile page if you want to check it out and make suggestions. I included a pic from the movie that seems appropriate. I don't think there are any issues with including that image. Thank you!


Oct. 31st, 2016 10:45 am
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Hi everyone -- Got a couple of questions around modding this comm.

For those of you who are running communities and sharing moderation duties (b2mem, etc.), can I set up multiple people as maintainers? Have you found that usable or has it worked better to have an admin account that all the mods can use? Something like wsadmin is what I was thinking.
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I had been absent for a very long time when I recently felt the need to check out LJ again. It was a very hard "comeback". I had no idea how sick Julia was and it was with a very heavy heart I tried to say goodbye to her.

I feel a huge guilt on one hand to have missed the time we could have had together but I am also very glad I was able to say that farewell, however short it was. I know she would have comforted me and tell me that I have nothing to feel guilty about.

Like so many others I don't remember when we first became friended because it feels like she was always there. I have not read all of her stories and there is much I have only just now learned about her. So no, I didn't know her fully but I felt her warmth, her compassion, her love. She gave the best of advice or comfort when needed. I know who she was as a person. I will miss her greatly.

It's a comfort to know her presence will still be here. ♥


Oct. 30th, 2016 09:45 pm
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Welcome to [ profile] thewhiteshores - thank you for joining us!

[ profile] baranduin and I would very much like to know how you'd like to see the community develop. If you have any thoughts or ideas about the running of the community and/or what you'd like to see here, please let us know. We will gladly welcome any help you have to offer.

Also, if anyone would like to make icons, create a background or banner, we'd love to hear from you. I am going to write up the profile page. Would someone be willing to send something to [ profile] middleearthnews to announce the community to a wider audience?

Thanks again for joining us.

Our Mews

Oct. 30th, 2016 02:36 pm
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I see that lavendertook has posted a lovely and comprehensive description of the service for Julia. I have little to add except that Julia has a very loving family who really appreciated and admired both her sweet nature and her variety of talents. (Who knew about the singing and art?!?) I spoke with her daughter Amanda and son-in-law Jeff before the ceremony to let them know that Julia's lj community was having their own memorial at the same time, and that even if they couldn't all be there in person they were with us in spirit. They were very touched and pleased.

Lots of people knew about lj and the circle of writers of which Mews was one. She obviously was proud to be part of the community and have so many friends here.

It is great to be in touch again. I apologize for not remembering even enough about how to navigate lj to be able to link lavendertook's name above! (If anybody has a cheat sheet about how to code things I'd appreciate it.)

I was very moved and a little shaken by Julia's service, partly because it reminded me so much of my own mother's funeral three weeks ago. Watching Amanda go through all the actions for which I was responsible recently made it very present again. It seems that so many people have recently had losses, and I'm sorry that my absence from lj has made me absent from the lives of people I care about. Thank you for letting me participate here. Love!
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I had the privilege of attending [ profile] mews1945's memorial service yesterday in Westminster, MD. I wanted to make a bright floral arrangement that was just like Julia to honor her and because her daughter Amanda deserves bright flowers while coping with the loss of her bright mom, so I bought a fuckton of flowers on Friday and, surprisingly, got most of the flowers into the arrangement. Here it is in the back of my car:


The service was the most heart-filling memorial service I've been to. In front of the room, under a stained glass window were several large beautiful arrangements--everyone was on the same page that boring funeral white was not for Julia. There were candles, a lovely portrait of Julia from sometime in the last several years with her head in one hand with an impish smile and discerning stare. There were a couple of photoboards of snapshots of Julia throughout her life. Among them was the group shot of all of us with her at the last moot that we took on her lawn, and the little round Sideshow pin of Frodo and Sam watching the oliphant. Our long-lost dear [ profile] aprilkat and I hugged and I met the sweet [ profile] carolecummings for the first time and we hugged. And I accomplished my main goal of going and hugging Amanda tight and telling her one was from [ profile] baranduin and how beloved her mom was by all of us online, and Amanda knew that from all our comments that she so appreciated. I also saw and hugged Julia's grandson Matthew and DIL Ashley, who was briefly on LJ.

Mews's "little" brother Bob is a pastor and so he led the service. The love for her that infused his speech was very moving, and I learned much about Julia I never knew. First of all, "all who knew her" called her "Julie" and "Judy". Growing up, she was the storyteller to her siblings, and told stories of vampires and demons--she was always the accomplished storyteller. He admired her ability to draw and paint--she was a fine artist--I never knew that. I would love to see some of her work. And she had a beautiful singing voice that brought people to tears in a performance of a song when she was young--aprilkat, carole--do you remember what song he said it was? She and her sisters sang together in a group they named "The Denims". Hearing all these things made me smile so much.

He would be the tag-along little brother that she would take to the fair when she was courting her husband Jim. And later in life, she talked him through a very dark time and gave him the strength to go on. And when he visited her in the last weeks, he asked her "So how was it?" and she knew immediately what he meant, as was their way, and she said, "I've had a wonderful, wonderful life." She could have taken meds that would have prolonged her life, but that would have compromised her quality of life and chose to forego them and was at peace with her decision and brought him around to be at peace with it, too.

After he finished speaking they played a wordless rendition of the tune to John Lennon's Julia--I had just earwormed that song earlier that morning with her in mind. I got to hug mews's lovely sister Alice, who looks a lot like her and she knew about us as her online writing friends and reiterated how Julia always told them stories as kids. I wish there was more time for me to have taken in all the shots on the photoboards. She was a dark-haired vixen during her wild youth, and there were a number of pics of her laughing with her sisters and with Amanda and the grandkids.(-:

Not wanting to intrude on the family lunch we were invited to, [ profile] aprilkat and I got lunch after the service at Bob Evans, where she and Julia went when she visited, and we had a really wonderful time catching up--I was lucky to get to spend the time with her. She last took Mews there in July, probably not much before the last possible time Mews could get out. And Mews told her about what a great time she had at the moot the end of May with those of us who could come. I'm so glad we had that time with her. I wish you all could have been there and at the memorial service yesterday. But I see you've had a heart-warming wake in this community for her. How like her to bring us all together and leave us so much love. *hugs all round*
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I'd say our community got off to a fine start yesterday. Thank you all for participating so enthusiastically! It seemed like every time I refreshed there was a new post or two. I loved reading them all.

Hey Mewsie, we even had an [ profile] aprilkat sighting :-)

[ profile] cali_se is going to post something later to get us thinking about running the comm so that will be coming.
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West of the Moon Author Page for Mews1945

I hope that it will be useful to those who might want to revisit her wonderful world.
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I was never fortunate enough to meet Mews in person, but she was such a presence on my friends page. She always had a kind comment, and her daily recs led me to many other good friends.

And her stories were always lovely, warm and comforting. Every time I read one it gave me the feeling I had spent a pleasant time with my favorite characters.

When her health curtailed her activity on LJ, I understood. But I missed seeing her on my flist every day.

I still miss her.

So Mews

Oct. 29th, 2016 03:41 pm
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Sadly, because I was away from lj for a few years, I lost track of Mews but I remember her being a gentle and honest lady. I was looking through her journal today when I found this entry.

She managed to express what a lot of us feel about writing fanfic but in a way that was straight forward without being strident. It's sad that she is no longer here.
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Like a lot of you, I don't remember exactly when Mews and I became friends. It seemed like she always was there and always would be. It's very hard to accept that I will never read a new Mewstale, or receive an insightful comment or word of support from her, or discover new fic treasures through her recs lists. Mews had knack for seeing to the heart of things and knowing exactly the right words to say. She was smart and wise and nobody's fool at the same time as she was kind and generous and loving. And not many people, in my experience, can be all those at once. She was also brave in the face of adversities that would have crushed many people.

When I think of her writing, what comes to my mind is how filled with detail her stories were, so that you were completely transported into the worlds she created. She was an incredibly gifted storyteller and thankfully left us a wealth of stories to turn to for solace and inspiration. When I'm missing her, I know I can find her in Hometown Boys or Frodo Lad or Family. That is such a huge comfort.

Namárië, dearest Mews. You will always be in my heart.
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I don't remember when I first became aware of Mews on LJ. Even though I had commented anonymously on several journals for a number of months, I finally created my own account in December of 2003. Mews created hers in April of 2005. I wish I could pinpoint the exact time, but since all my posts, especially those where I posted my fic, were public, I have to assume that I first learned of Mews when she left a comment on one of my stories.

It was my habit back then to check out the journals of anyone who commented on my fics, and if I thought we had something in common, to friend them. When I learned that Mews was close to my own age, which I originally thought was rather too old to be a fangirl, I immediately felt a kinship to her, and when I found out she was also a writer and wrote in my chosen fandom, that sealed the deal.

We had different styles, of course. While I wrote one-offs, or small ficlets that were more vignettes than stories, Mews wrote a number of different multi-chaptered series, Sean/Elijah and Casey/Zeke among them. I was amazed at how prolific she was, and how much heart she put into all her work. She seemed to feel the same about the S/E pairing as I did, which made her writing so enjoyable for me.

As much as I enjoyed her writing, what I liked most about Mews was her encouragement to other writers like myself. She always left comments on my fic posts, and when I did reposts of those stories I'd first posted in community journals like [ profile] waymeet and [ profile] fffc, she usually commented a second time, something I didn't expect, but greatly appreciated. And when I embarked on my first series, Sanctuary, co-written with [ profile] keye, Mews always commented on every chapter. Even when most of our readers had moved on to other fandoms, Mews continued to comment on Sanctuary, sometimes hers being the only comment we received on a particular chapter. I can't tell you how much her loyalty meant to me.

One of the last fic requests Mews made of me was for a hurt/comfort story in the Sanctuary Universe, and while my Muse had been absent of late, I'm happy that I was finally able to finish the story she'd requested, and that she got to read it before the end. I'm also very proud that I was able to gift her with a Sean/Elijah fic on her last birthday.

I wasn't fortunate enough to meet Mews in person as so many of you were, but her personality came through in her posts and in her fiction. She was a lovely person, inside and out, truly the heart and soul of our fandom, and her passing has left a hole in my heart. I will miss you, dearest Mews.
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I came to know the name Mews because of her Faculty fic series called Family.

And then I came to read comments scattered about that Mews was Mews the Second. Took me awhile to figure out that her LJ name was in honor of her cat Mews (Mews the First).

Little bits of information came to me from her journal and comments, we interacted more and more often, and then it just seemed as if I had known her forever and that she was part of my inner circle. I delighted in each new layer of friendship I built up with her.

Occasionally I get this morbid thought that I don't want to have any more new friends because losing friends is so hard. I have realized that if I held to that ridiculous approach to life I would have missed out on having had Mews as a friend.

I learned quite a bit from Mews. I will continue to learn from her.


Oct. 29th, 2016 12:58 pm
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Hi, everyone. I used to be Aratlithiel/Daffodil Bolger once upon a time. I haven't seen a lot of you for a while, but I wanted to first thank [ profile] baranduin and [ profile] cali_se for starting this community and allowing us a place where we can be with others who loved our [ profile] mews1945.

Second, I wanted to let you know that the service was lovely. It was, not surprisingly, full of smiles through tears, and Julia's family was as loving and welcoming as she was. It was comforting, but it also made everything so real, so it was also... hard.

I want to thank [ profile] aprilkat and [ profile] lavendertook for hugging me and letting me awkward at them for a while. You'll probably hear more from them about the service later, and they'll likely be a bit more eloquent about it. Julia's brother, Bob, officiated and spoke with such great fondness of Julia's life and the people and things she loved, among them, all of you here. She didn't differentiate between her "fandom life" and her "real life". To her, it was all part of her life, and she loved every one of you--of us--with no conditions.

She loved you. On the day we officially tell her goodbye, that's the one thing I wanted to say, to make sure you know. She loved you.

And thanks to all of you here for... just for being here.
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I loved Mewsie's fics, though I confess to not reading a lot of slash stuff, just b/c that's not my cuppa...but her fic was always lovely, and I want to share one I really love here. This is one where Frodo awakens at Cormallen. Lovely. Features Legolas and Merry. <3

Oh, and one more! - "Comfort in Moria." Very sweet little tale about Frodo's experience just after his rescue from the Watcher in the Water. <3

That was Julia. She understood love and friendship so well, in fic and in RL.

Namarie, Mewsie. <3

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As I'm thinking of her this morning, two things in particular come to mind.

*Her fic recs. She always did the best roundups. And she did this even when she wasn't writing herself. She was so incredibly generous of spirit. Always she wanted everyone to know where to find fun things they might enjoy reading, even if she wasn't feeling all that well herself and it was a lot of effort for her. I miss her fic roundups. They were the best. <3

*I know I've talked about this a lot on my own LJ lately, but...Mewsie was one of the voices of clarity who brought me back into managing my diabetes earlier this year. The best part was that not only was she honest - painfully honest - w/me, she told me so many of her ideas for lower carb meals and snacks, esp ones that didn't require a lot of cooking b/c she just couldn't anymore. It gave me much more a sense of the direction I needed to be thinking, and even though it's taken a lot of months to fully sink in, it's been a comfort to me. I wasn't sure what a suitable lunch looked like, honestly; my parents are the king and queen of carbs. But Mewsie gave me perspective, and she did it both gently and firmly, never shying away from the reality of how essential it is to control our blood glucose levels in diabetes, but also...also she taught me that it's not necessary to freak out over occasional high numbers, esp when we're stressed or sick. Mewsie understood so much about living with diabetes - far more than most of the other people I know with it. She and Baranduin and Elwen helped me see the light...and while it's taken me a long time to get back on track, I'm optimistic. And I don't feel trapped anymore.

I'm dedicating my efforts at tightening up my control in large part to Mewsie. If I get a good number in January, I'll have her (and Baranduin and Elwen) to thank. But I will never, ever forget how kindly she said all she did, how she made it seem not so bad to have to manage it, how doable she made it all feel. I miss her every day. I think of her every time I check my BG. And I hope I can do the kindness she showed me justice.

Julia was so precious. She could be snarky at times, and she wasn't afraid to tell it like it was. But she was also so gentle at times, and always so thoughtful and creative. I loved her fic; I loved her; I loved everything she shared with us...and I miss her so much, as I'm sure do we all.

I hope it's beautiful over there in the West, Mewsie. Miss you here, but I'm glad you're no longer suffering.

*hugs to all*

Remembering with a full heart,

Our Mewsie

Oct. 29th, 2016 08:26 am
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Julia's service is taking place right now, and my heart is so full I can barely function. I want to link here to Julia’s second-ever LJ post, in April 2005, in which she tells a little about herself... and why Livejournal, fanfiction, and her fandom friends became so important to her.

I miss her every day.
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Hey everyone. I'll plan on posting something tomorrow but please everyone feel free, especially those of you on the other side of the pond :-)


Oct. 28th, 2016 05:33 pm
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What a fantastic idea! I love the idea of keeping our loved ones alive by sharing stories and memories. Thank you so much [ profile] baranduin!
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